We
hope this information will help you understand our
customs and us. 
It is normal
to have both good and bad things and both good and
bad people everywhere in the world. Most nice Thai
ladies have been taught to be faithful, sincere, grateful,
obedient, and instructed in the skills and duties
to please a man, keep him content and how to furnish
him a comfortable home.
Every society
has its own traditions, customs, culture, beliefs
and rules. This causes the people of one society to
be different in character and personality from those
of the others. We furnish this information so you
will know Thai ladies better by learning the traditional
social environment in which they are brought up.
One of the
first and most important lessons a boy or girl learns
in the Thai society is to respect their parents as
the most sacred persons in their lives. These teaching
results from a Thai traditional thought that since
parents cause children to come into the world, the
children should be grateful to their parents and always
obey them. To break this rule and make parents unhappy
and miserable is regarded as very bad and even sinful
behavior. Being taught in this way since childhood,
they don't feel uncomfortable being obedient to their
parents when they grow up, unless there is a serious
problem involved.
While boys
are sometimes given a chance to argue or negotiate
with their parents for they are expected to become
the leader of a family in the future, a girl is treated
more strictly and is required to conform to the rule.
Thai girls consequently almost always act as followers
unconsciously. It's not strange at all that many Thai
women are willing to follow better than lead both
in marriage and social life. For Thais, a wife is
compared to a hind leg of an elephant while a husband,
to its front leg. This means that a wife should follow
her husband's decision. Nowadays we have many educated
Thai women and many of them are accepted into the
workplace in what was once thought to be only a man's
position, such as a director of a company or school,
member of parliament, ..Etc. Thai women can also give
opinion, an idea or can be consultants for their husbands
both in good and bad time.
"Kunla Satri"
is a Thai word used to call a girl who behaves well
and has a pleasant manner in the Thai style. According
to its definition a Kunla Satri needs to be polite
in every situation.
Thai people
give a lot of importance to their reputation, especially
that of their families. If someone in a Thai family
behaves badly, it is considered that his action doesn't
only bring a bad reputation to himself, but also to
his family. It is out of this consideration, beside
the reason of love, that they always give close attention
to the behavior of their children.
Thais have
a very strict custom that a woman must keep her virginity
until the day she gets married and she must be faithful
and respect her husband and will never have other
man in her life while she is married. Most Thai women
are still conservative, which is contrary to the image
of Thai women, which many foreign visitors to Thailand
may have -- the image of easy virtue. In fact, only
some girls are forced to become prostitutes for economic
reasons and the Thai government is earnestly trying
to solve this problem.
As mentioned
above, nowadays-Thai people are being influenced by
westernization. Thai ladies have become more independent,
and more confident in making their own decisions.
Yet they still do not forget beliefs and customs embedded
in their minds. Most of them know who they are and
what they are expected to be and to do, so they can
bring happiness to their lives and their lifetime
mates.
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